What is your view of anger? Have you ever thought about it? What is your perception of the emotion and what role does it play in your life?
I feel all of our emotions are valid, therefore, anger is very valid. I also feel like there’s so much of it right now that maybe people are having a hard time navigating and understanding their own anger. Which is why I asked you the questions in the first place. While I am not a therapist, I have the experience of working with people in managing their anger and understanding their emotions. My intuitive ability helps a client understand where the anger is coming from. When connecting the first sense of intuition with the human element of anger can really help.
Some people go to anger as their default mechanism and are more prone to being in that place. Perhaps it’s because that is what they learned growing up. In this expression, intuition is not being used. Anger is a very valid emotion. There are times where it’s even necessary. What we do with that anger, that emotion, is as important as what we do with the emotion of love. See if you are expressing it and using it in the best possible intention and context, because if you’re angry and you’re having a reactive moment, very often that’s not going to help any situation because reaction rather than response tends to elevate rather than dissipate.
When you are angry, a lot of the emotions that are happening are coming from the place in the emotional body, which is an energetic body around your physical self, that tends to act as a Swiffer for energy and emotions that may not even be your own emotions. This is why it’s so important to be careful about what you’re watching, what type of music you’re listening to and to be conscious of what you’re putting into your energetic nutrition plan.
Like Swiffers, you are in a space of heightened sensitivity and if you’re not releasing that in any way, it is very possible that every little thing could make you cranky or annoyed and you will want to react. One of the ways that is easiest to turn down that reactive tendency is to pay attention to what you have absorbed. If you are on overload, it’s your job to be able to assess that and I believe a lot of people aren’t aware of that. I think they are conscious that they have emotions, but they may not have the skills to work with those emotions. Anger is very valid because there are times where our boundaries are pushed, where others are trying to take advantage, and we have to have a say in that.
If you don’t have the trigger then people can’t push your buttons. If you’re feeling set off, it’s a great place to look at what pissed you off so bad. Why did someone’s behavior create something in you that created your reaction? The hurts that are already there often get triggered and it is necessary to look at what it is underneath that. A lot of times it is connected to childhood. The anger could be a cover up for the pain that has been underneath that didn’t get a voice or was unable to be expressed. It is important to be able to identify our emotions and to connect the dots to what is really bothering us. Be willing to take accountability for those emotions, to acknowledge them, and to give them a little hug. Then go a little bit deeper into how your body feels when you react to this. If you get angry at how people treat you then you’ve trained them to treat you that way. You have to go to the root cause and figure out what is happening because your emotions have a validity to it.
One of the greatest things you can do when you feel anger is to take some space to release it. After some space, you can create a mantra for yourself, “I will give myself and whomever I’m angry with the space and understanding to be able to discern if this is coming from an old wound of mine or if this is something valid.”Even if it’s something valid, you’re going to make more progress and have better results if you have thought about it and given some consideration to what you would say, rather than react.
The self-awareness about this process brings a conversation of asking yourself what is hurting, what is trying to get your attention? If you are able to discern what that is, then you can you do something about it. You can channel your anger into a helping action. One of the ways that can get the physiological body involved is breathing. Everything comes back to breath. The breathing will bring some calmness to your system.
If you breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth, it tells your reactive system that it is going to be okay. In those moments of anger use your white light to clear off some of that energy.
If you are feeling desperate, despondent, or frustrated often helping somebody else will raise your energy. It will help you to have an appreciation for where you are in life and the fact that you do have the capability of bringing yourself to center and to acting like an intelligent, enlightened soul.
In moments of anger, practice a little bit of self-restraint. Then maybe you could forgive yourself for believing that you have to carry the anger in order to justify an old hurt. You don’t have to keep telling the story of the past about how you were hurt. Give some compassion to self and then process through that.
Holding on to the anger is only hurting you, not anyone else.
Choose how you want to be in this lifetime. Decide how you’re going to do that and then be proud of how you made a step in the direction of healing.
When you’re understanding anger, you’re choosing a new way of being that is the ultimate healing. It takes a lot of energy to sustain anger. So put that energy towards love and enjoying your life. Imagine how it could be to actually embrace your life and enjoy it because you’re no longer carrying around the backpack of anger.
Do you feel you can do that? Will you do it?
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