I love words; they have frequencies and vibrations that just make me excited to discern each and every one of them. The word mistake has often stood out to me largely because people can be so tough on themselves. When little kids say “Oh, I made a mistake” it’s stinking cute, but they’re not judging themselves. They’re simply making a statement that they made a mistake. I find if you look at the word, you can see that there’s a natural split in between the mis and the take. This feels like where the entertainment industry got it right. During the filming of a movie they have a clapboard and it comes down and it says take one or take two. It’s not that they did anything wrong, it just didn’t come out in the way that they would like. So there’s a miss-take.
If we could embrace the idea that whatever we intended didn’t come out the way we wanted it to, we could be a little bit more accepting and kind to ourselves. When I’m coaching someone and they are telling me that they keep repeating a pattern or they are not understanding why their life has turned out the way it has, I will say it didn’t come out the way you envisioned so maybe that vision needs to change. If we keep carrying around this idea that it was a mistake, then we’re never going to learn from it.
One of the gifts of experiencing a miss-take is that you can start to see a pattern in your life, your relationships, and your habits. It can also help you in developing your own intuitive abilities because it is not an exact science. We have to be able to recalculate and to assess where we hung a left when maybe we should have veered right. Habits get reinforced by how we handle these things. Be kind to yourself and the supportive habits will be stronger than the unsupportive ones. Great huh?
One of the challenges of assessing our mistakes in today’s world is that everything seems to need to be positive and that is just not possible. People will say, “it must have happened for a reason or I was meant to go through this to grow”. I do believe that there is opportunity in everything, but I don’t believe that things happen in order to teach us a lesson. If you’ve made a mistake, it’s important to assess that and to factor out what you could have done differently. There also has to be accountability and being able to look at something that you’re doing repetitively. Therefore, it may be a mistake once, but if you’re repeating a pattern it then becomes a choice. This is where kindness comes in. It may be that you are repeating patterns because you’re just not aware of why subconsciously you’re in a repetitive action. This is why looking at what could be considered an opportunity to “take two” is important.
There is enough in our world that is challenging and stressful. If we can create spaces where we can relax, then they’ll be less derogatory conversation happening inside our head. We get to look at that movie screen in a way that helps us plan for what we would like to see. Bring some insight that could help you understand what pattern needs to be worked on. Ask yourself, “what is the subconscious behavior that’s causing me to repeat mistakes?”
Make a list about how you felt as a result of that miss-take and see if there were there any signs leading up to it and allowed it to continue. Put down some tracks on what you would like to do differently and get your system working in that direction. If you’re repeating the same mistake over and over again, you’re making a choice to repeat that. Instead make a choice on how you would like to shift it.
The process of coming to a place of self-acceptance is admitting that you don’t know it all. When you have that conversation with yourself it helps to relax your intuitive system so that your extra sensory skill sets, that first sense, can come in and work with you. It may take a couple of times to shift the habit and to change a way of being. When you get in the practice of looking at it all and being open to what the messages are without judgment, you can shift that in the moment and you can be present to whatever is happening. It takes new opportunities to help us learn that the way our brain might see something could be a miss-take. We can help it by re-patterning, by laying down new tracks of acting and thinking so that the next time that happens your autopilot will recognize it sooner.
Everybody wants to be heard and seen and understood, but that has to start with each of us. We can’t look to other people to do it for us. We have to take that responsibility and a willingness to do that for ourselves and then we get to celebrate the changes that happen.
You are not a mistake, your life is not a mistake and neither are the choices you make. Decide if they are miss-takes and do what is necessary to raise that vibration of yours to align mind, body and that amazing soul of yours.